Today’s post is about my journey trying to raise my daughter properly. This includes a daily fight against advertising, other people, and myself!
It is not easy those days to raise a girl to become a godly woman, who respects herself and others, a true princess!
You know, my daughter is in the “princess stage”, she is a princess. She is always speaking about her growing up, getting married to a prince like Dad and they would have 4 children!
It is cute to listen to her!
Though, the other day, she was telling that to a woman that I know, and this woman was shocked.
She told me how she didn’t think that was nice for my daughter to “make her think she would find a prince and get married to him“. You know, she began telling me how Walt Disney movies were bad, that girls should think about studying to have a carrier and be independent woman that would not need a man to live and take care for her.
A true feminist! 
Obviously, I don’t agree with that. I will not enter in the “why” , it would be a really long post for you to read!
What I told this woman is that I like the fact that my daughter thinks she is a princess, and I will teach her that if she wants to find a prince some day, she should act like a princess.
Do you know what I mean?
I am constantly fighting the powerful advertising we can see everywhere promoting a violent independent woman, who is considered just for her body, and the (vulgar) sexy way she is dressed.
This very same woman that I portrayed will then tell you in a pseudo-feminist pledge that it is all a lye, princes don’t exist anymore and she can’t find a single man that is kind, gentle, respectful etc… Basically, men are all mean and sexually obsessed…
Well, girls, be realistic, if you want a prince, act as a princess!
Snow white (my daughter’s favorite) was not dressed like a br*tz, she was not messing around while waiting for the prince of her dreams.
No, she was kind and gentle, she took good care of the house, cleaning and baking pies, and making sure all the dwarfs were Ok.
You know, I always use to say that one of the most important things in life is coherence. If you expect something, you have to act and think in the way that will allow you to get what you want.
Don’t expect in a man the qualities you don’t have yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, don’t expect a man to do so.
If you think your body is more important than your brain, don’t expect others to watch and value your brain! and on and on…
I found this interesting article from the American Psychological Association about the fact that girls are “sexualized” and how that affects their image of themselves etc… You can read it HERE.
Wow, I am apparently not the only one who thinks this bad image of women is wrong! 
Well, my hope for today is that my daughter will grow up thinking she is a princess, and acting as a princess, and I am sure she will find some day a nice prince who will respect her and will see her as the princess of his heart.
Raising girls is not that easy those days but we have to be faithful and pray for our girls to grow in the grace of the Lord and find themselves to be daughters of the King, which means they are true princesses!
Have a nice day!
I find it interesting that you took that woman’s comments to mean that if a little girl is not a princess waiting for her prince charming to come, then the only other choice she has is to be some sort of overly sexualized object. If I was presented with only those choices in life, being a princess would seem pretty appealing. I mean, all I would have to do is wait around and be sweet while a man comes and bails me out of whatever troubles I find myself in without any real need to think or do anything for myself.
Feminists (of which I proudly count myself as one) are one of the loudest voices out there fighting the notion that unless girls act like shopaholic jailbait like the Bratz franchise, they are not normal. A quick google would have confirmed that for you. I would encourage you to actively engage with feminists to get a more complete picture.
True freedom is about choices.
Thank you for your comment.
I am not saying that girls are limited to those 2 choices.
What I say is that it is regrettable that the image that receive girls from the society is that vulgar and sexualized, and that values as motherhood, humility, and grace are stigmatized now days.
I hope my daughter will be a woman who respects herself and is respected by others and is notable by what she has in her brain.
Nothing to do with being weak or inferior to a man, but being proud of her femininity to be able to find a man who is proud of his masculinity and would treat her as she deserves.
Women say there are no princes out there, that there aren’t kind, gentle, caring men. Well guess what, those kind, gentle, caring men exist, but they often hold old fashioned views and aren’t interested in a career focused, independant woman. They want a woman that WANTS to be cared for and treated like a princess, a woman who values the respect women received in the past, and is willing to work in her feminine role instead of the masculine one.
Your daughters dream is possible, because as a girl with these views she is more likely to meet men with these views. I, at 17, have found my prince and am soon to marry him. Fairy Tales do come true!
At the risk of being labeled a chauvanist, I just replied to another topic very similar to this and my reply would fit very well into this one…. I am NOT a man who thinks a man is better than a woman, we are different and have different roles in our children’s lives. I consider myself a prince. I am nurturing, loving, caring, passionate, considerate, hard working, honorable, trustworthy, and a man… although I feel as though sometimes it is a sin to be a “man” anymore…
Here goes…
I totally agree. The problem with today’s society is they make being a “princess” unrealistic… when the truth is society has taken the “princess” out of the equation by accepting and condoning men laying/marrying men and women laying/marrying women. The “roles” are no longer defined, and the prince will never come because he must come on a PINK pony… Men are made to be “sensitive” and women are made to be man-haters. God has been also taken out of the equation and replaced by “feelings”. Children are no longer taught to rely on others, but to be selfish and “look out for number one”. TRUST is never established. PARTNERSHIP is never taught. “I don’t need a man” and “I don’t need a woman” are the new teachings….
A king NEEDS a queen, and a queen NEEDS a king for the natural order of things to manifest. A child NEEDS a mother AND a father in order to develop into a princess or a prince. They need guidance from their King and Queen.
Given the opportunity, I could easily be the prince to take my princess into OUR kingdom to rule our people with love, honor, and respect. Two KINGS cannot rule a kingdom, nor can two QUEENS. Children need the guidance of a manly role and a feminine role. And the King and Queen must know their own role and EQUAL importance of their roles.
Note: Just one “prince’s” opinion…. I love my queen above all others, and would protect my queen and my kingdom to the death if necessary. I will teach my “princess” what a true prince should be.